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Baby it’s Cold Outside, Meaning, it’s “Hey Big Head/Stranger” season.

“Apology Accepted, Access Denied”

I saw this on Facebook the other day and it gave me life. I could totally relate to this post because people can mistake their “apology” as an all access card to your (time, money, feelings, space, etc); especially family.

I was 30 years old when I realized I don’t have to deal with toxic people or entertain toxic conversation or inconsistent behavior from people (family or friends or Ex’s). I typically say what I have to say and keep it moving. I don’t like not addressing issues, clear the air and agree to disagree (or not) but don’t play with me like we cool and we not (I probably did this before I turned 30, thusly why I don’t have a larte social circle). 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ I particularly apply this to my past relationships. At some point in my youth, I believed you can return to being just “friends” with someone you were romantically involved with. Silly me🙄. For some it works (congratulations). As for us normal people lol, that’s a dead end. So help me understand, after the many “what if” conversations, what else do you talk about? How great things are going in your separate relationships? Do your kids have play dates? Make it make sense lol. I really cannot understand what’s the point in updating me on how great you’re doing in your current relationship, when (I’m sure) you’ve fixed your behavior; one (or more) of the reasons the relationship (we had) didn’t work. I’m sorry. Call me what you want (bitter, petty, closed minded, etc) but I’m but interested.

So for all the losers who missed out on this train of luxury and loyalty, I wish you well in your future endeavors but….apology accepted, access denied (new phone who dis).

Moral of the story: Its cold outside aka cuffin‘ season (iykyk). So when you get that “hey stranger/big head” text,

ignore it. Don’t look back, keep it moving (Y’all not together for a reason).

Until next week,


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